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HOW I SAVED MY OWN MARRIAGE FROM DIVORCE BY DISCOVERING THESE 3 SECRETS.

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Right now you feel overwhelm and distressed about your marriage.

You tell yourself your husband loves you, but you don’t actually FEEL loved or understood, right?

And often you feel like you just want to run away.

How do I know this?

Watch every second of this video now to see how to have a happy passionate marriage… then click on the link above to LEARN MORE!
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IS YOUR MARRIAGE WORTH SAVING?

Many times in our lives we experience emotional difficulties and are unsure of how to move forward. Marriage coach Karen Gosling explores a common situation and offers insight in this real life case study on how a happy passionate marriage can be achieved.

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John and Lisa agreed on coaching to help end their marriage amicably. Explaining that they no longer “got on”, frequently snapping at each other with rudeness and sarcasm, Lisa said that John no longer filled her emotional needs – to be loved, appreciated and cared for.

John acknowledged he was working longer hours at the office to avoid going home and that he was feeling empty and in turmoil. Both said they felt "finished".

KAREN'S ASSESSMENT
This couple had a combination of poor communication and unresolved past hurts. By improving communication and learning to talk safely about old hurts, there was a chance they could reconnect emotionally and restore intimacy.

WORK DONE IN COACHING
When I asked, “Why did you both agree to have coaching?” John admitted that he really didn’t want to leave Lisa, he loved her and hoped to restore their relationship.

In amazement Lisa explained that she also didn't want to separate. Coming from a broken home herself she knew the pain involved with having estranged parents, and was conscious of the emotional wellbeing of their two young children.

Lisa conceded that she was prepared to stay in the relationship even if John didn't fulfil her needs.

I taught them a model of communication and each had the opportunity to level honestly with the other about feelings harboured concerning a certain issue, past or present.

They had to listen to each other, acknowledging the feelings raised before continuing with the interaction. Due to the model feelings were communicated safely, without sarcasm or defensive responses.

OUTCOME
At their third coaching session John and Lisa, who were noticeably more relaxed and interacted with affection, said, "Karen, with your help we’re saving our marriage".

John explained he felt "lighter" and Lisa commented that close friends were remarking on how "connected" they seemed.

Within three months of contacting Karen, John and Lisa survived the stress of having family from overseas to stay for three weeks and were thrilled by this achievement!

KAREN'S ADVICE FOR MOVING FORWARD
When couples experience communication difficulties both partners need the opportunity to tell their side of the story without interruption or judgement.

They may need time on their own with their coach in order to really "get things off their chest". If unexpressed, past resentments remain anger triggers and can cause underlying tension leading to arguments “for no reason”.

Couples need to learn how to give each other permission to raise past hurts, and discuss them using the communication rules. Open communication is the key to a loving and trusting relationship.

Learn more... webinar.marriagology.com/
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TELL YOUR INNER VOICE TO CHECK OUT!

Many times in our lives we experience emotional difficulties and are unsure of how to move forward. Marriage coach Karen Gosling explores a common situation and offers insight in this real life case study on how a happy passionate marriage can be achieved.

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Robert felt uptight and out of control. He felt trapped and unable to escape the stress in his life. He hated his job, felt bored, restless and under utilised. At work he was unfulfilled as his skills weren’t being acknowledged or used. Nevertheless, he worked longer hours to avoid his wife, Laura, who was always unhappy and nagging him.

At home, Laura felt she managed the children on her own. The more decisions she made, the more Robert left her to it. When they moved overseas to live and work she assumed that her strong relationship with Robert would see them through the stresses of a new environment.

Yet Robert now seemed withdrawn and quiet and wouldn't talk to her about his work or what she was going through. She felt resentful, frustrated, unsupported and insecure.

Laura knew of many couples who had marriage problems and felt it was only a matter of time before they too were just another statistic.

KAREN'S ASSESSMENT
Both Robert and Laura had a loud inner voice that was feeding them negative, irrational and anxious thoughts. As neither was communicating well with the other, their inner voice allowed them to believe whatever they wanted to believe.

They each felt the growing distance between them and were worried about where their marriage was headed. In the absence of effective communication, their inner voices had taken control!

WORK DONE IN COACHING
Karen explained that the inner voice attacks, judges or minimises. The inner voice is negative and destructive, and louder when a person is feeling vulnerable and stressed.

Both Robert and Laura saw clearly how their own respective unhappy feelings escalated into anxiety about the marriage, as their inner voice got louder.

OUTCOME
Robert and Laura learned to reaffirm how they felt about each other and also learnt to communicate their insecurities so that a similar situation didn’t arise again.

KAREN'S ADVICE FOR MOVING FORWARD
Everyone has an inner voice – it’s the conversation you have with yourself! It accompanies you wherever you go making its presence felt, even when uninvited.

The inner voice may be a thought, or a feeling without any real thought attached to it. Often you believe this feeling to be true because it’s so apparent to you, e.g. my partner doesn’t appreciate me, he takes me for granted.

When your head is full of anxious and irrational thoughts not checked against reality they become your new truth. Thereafter, anything you observe or hear will reinforce the new truth in your head.

Tell your inner voice to check out! Seek help to overcome its negative message.

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